~Lessons Learned~

The good and bad in life can either create personal growth or fear inside of us. Whichever is stronger is what dominates how we handle change.  Fear will make you try to control everything around you in hopes you won't stimulate your fears.  As long as you use fear as your reason to try to control situations and others you will inevitably view life as threatening, therefore you will continue to allow the negative thoughts to cloud, even drive your life and you will continue to experience negative situations.  What we think becomes reality, what we think we receive.   Life will continue to change, it is up to us to either learn and release or hold on and try to control.  Change is an opportunity for personal growth, nothing more. When we try to make things the way we want for security the more we will create.  Once you allow the ego to get involved in the fear, events will unfold quickly in front of you and you will have more to deal with and more that w...

Why do so many overlook the people in their lives that really see you for who you are, really get you, deep to your core.  Whether it is friends, family, lover, why do we look and chase after those that are not interested necessarily in us, or our well being.  While we allow the ones that overlook the overbearing, irritating, obnoxious characteristics we seem to hide from everyone but them. You know the ones we can truly be ourselves around, the ones we can use, trample on and yet they still come around and still love us.  Not because we are super cool, but because they truly see us.  They see past the walls and masks we all try to hide behind.  They accept our stupid quirks and shrug them off because they know who we really are? So many chase happiness when it is usually with them.  How many times in school did you blow off a really close friend to hang out with the "cool" crowd, yet never really felt as though you fit in.  Once you found that they...

FEAR - while fear is something we all think of and then experience in our lives-it is something that is non-existent unless we give our thoughts to it.  However, most people don't even realize that the many things that keep them stuck is fear.  So many people I know don't like the job they are in or what a promotion If I ask you why don't you put in for that job? Answer:  Aw, too many deadlines, hours are too long.  First thing I think of...........what are you afraid of?  Another great one is I hear people say God I want to go out with someone, get a date or I want to be married to have a home, kids a family.  I ask....why don't you date or get married?  Answer: too busy, want to pay off my bills, don't want to interrupt my time.  Um, again what are you afraid of??????? So think of something that you want whether it is a new career, promotion, spouse, date, boyfriend/girlfriend, new car, or even just a new outlook on life and ask yourself wh...

Do you yearn for a healthy relationship?  For a lasting relationship?  Do you wonder why you don't have one?  What is wrong with you?  The answer, pretty simple..................YOU'RE A LIAR!  Whether you lie to yourself or to others, until you begin to tell your truth to yourself and others, you will continue to search and search, either settling (which will eventually lead to a break-up) or going through one person after another.   Relationships differ from couple to couple.  Some can deal and compromise with situations that others would set as their deal breaker.  But the one thing that will definitely kill a relationship every time is lying.  But like I said there are two liars..............the self liar, which holds back on their truth trying to please the other.  Like the girl that meets a guy, the guy indicates early on that he is looking for a casual friend, a hook-up.  The girl goes along with this even though in her mi...

"the ability to endure an unpleasant or difficult process or situation without giving way  the capacity of something to last or to withstand wear and tear" Endurance requires strength, both physical and emotional.  Physical endurance comes from taking care of ourselves by being active, eating healthy and resting our bodies.  Emotional endurance comes from love and faith, which at times seems harder to accomplish than the physical.  The emotional/spiritual side of endurance comes with faith and being able to trust enough in yourself that you see something to the end.  Whether that is an injury, relationship, break-up, job, second chance, moving forward.  They all require endurance and perseverance.  But in the end it is all worth it.  As long as you are open and ready to receive, you will encounter setbacks (you're human and it's just part of the package).  HOWEVER, if you believe and keep going you will spring forward from any setbacks ...

I read somewhere that a goal without a plan is just a wish.   Great saying but how do you make your wishes come true?  It's as easy as this.......live them as though they are unfolding and happening right now.  Again change your thought process from when this happens to I'm preparing for this to happen.  Do you want a new house, new car, a loving spouse, a successful surgery, a great job, loving family, happiness and peace in your life?  You and only you allow the carrot of your wants to dangle in front of you always chasing it but never catching it.   If you want a new house, car and loving spouse, appreciate where you are right now and begin to see yourself with all of it.  Picture yourself decorating your new house, driving your new car and spending time with your spouse.  Enjoy it, feel, smell it, allow the belief that it can be yours to fill your heart with joy as you know it is coming.  Great advice and something that most of us can ...

I am a true believer in signs.  They are all around us providing us strength, assurance, or just comfort.  I use to ask for signs almost on a daily basis and they would end up popping up in the most random places.  Feathers, butterflies, dragon flies are very popular signs and when they are around spirit it surrounding you.   I recently received a sign in the mail from a very dear friend....keys.  The minute I saw them, before I read the letter, I knew they had a significant meaning and I knew it was my responsibility to figure it out.  So I sat in a quiet place with my cup of coffee, keys in hand and asked what I was supposed to learn or accept..........the answer actually freed me from a few weeks (okay months) of negative living.  For years I have been asked by so many how to let things go, how to change your mind and believe it, how to move forward when you feel stuck.  My answer was basically always the same, change your way of thinking to...