~Lessons Learned~

Do you have that innate ability to shrug things off?  To allow issues and problems to roll off of your back? To throw your hands up and  avert your attention elsewhere?  Well if you do, let me say I am in total awe.  I find myself once again (isn't life grand how it continues to teach) in the midst of someone else's demise.  Yes, I know it is my choice and I continue to work every day on not allowing other's "stuff" to affect my life.  When it comes to some, I fail miserably......................but I keep trying.  Writing and getting it out helps a whole bunch. I think having an attachment and emotions to something that you can't control is one of the hardest things to do.  (Don't get me wrong, when I'm on the outside it seems like the easiest thing and any of you that have talked with me know that to be my philosophy).  But damn, when you are in the middle of it and can see it, feel and sense it, shaking it off is one of the hardest things to do

Have you ever felt alone? Yearned for a deeper understanding of life or even just yourself? Or curious what your life path number is and what it means? For years I have been helping others work through issues, to see things in a different way or just allowing advice to flow freely. I sense and feel things knowing they come from spirit. It is a gift we all possess and I would like to share min...e with you. I am giving 13 free readings or automatic writings, either in person, telephone or via email. After the initial thirteen there is a fee for these uplifting readings, which you can contact me at any time for a one on one. Is spirit waiting to hear from you? If you feel so guided please message me to be one of the first thirteen. Peace!

SELF BELIEF!  Also known as self-confidence- (today's topic-thank you for the suggestion).  Confidence is actually believing, yet the word itself sounds at times like an unachievable goal.  Do you find that your cup o' confidence or bucket o' confidence is not evenly divided at times?  You may be extremely confident in yourself when it comes to your job, but lack that confidence in other areas of your life.  Have you ever thought, "if I was as good at this as I am at that, I would be so much happier?"  Have you found yourself overcompensating in certain areas of your life, thinking it will make you happier?  Years ago, I emerged myself in my job, because I felt I was good at what I did, I was needed, it made me "feel" good.  Yet, I wasn't really happy.  I wanted that same "feeling" in every aspect of my life, but didn't know how to get there.  For years, I was consumed with getting better at my job, taking it one step further all the

I was asked to write on another topic~COMMUNICATION!!!!!!  Great topic.....................thank you my friend! Communication is exchanging, which means it takes two!  Some of us are better talkers than listeners (I happen to fall into this category).  I can talk and talk and talk some more (probably the reason for my blog.....heehee) until I realize I'm the one doing all the talking.  Yet, when I listen, I hear.  I found that is something I forgot to do in the past.  It was like all I wanted to do was hear myself talk (apparently I was pretty impressed with myself.....AND I am pretty opinionated~whoa, wait did I just say that!  OUCH), but I found the more I stopped and really listened to the other person, the more I learned, the less stress and frustrated I became.  Because you see when you are a talker or when you are a "really good" listener and you forget to be both, you tend to forget the exchanging part of communication. Even the best "talker" can'

I was asked by a dear friend to write about Betrayal!!!!  Wow what a word, it can mean so many things and situations.  I sat with myself and tried to reflect on moments in my life where I had felt betrayed.  I was seventeen and felt the most utter form of betrayal (it is still in the top three out of about five times I think I have felt betrayed).  I have been lied to, stolen from, and double crossed, however now of these come close to the inner turmoil betrayal stirred within. To me betrayal comes from someone in my life that I trust and respect with every ounce of my being.  A person important enough in my life that I treat as family, including family.  Someone that I put full belief into, someone that I never think twice about helping, as I feel as though I am as important to them.  Even these "people" have lied to me and stolen from me, yet I was able to work through it.  Betrayal is an act of "selfishness" and "immaturity".  Getting a quick fix

Thank you everyone for the awesome responses.  I thought of sharing the dictionary meaning of the word, but instead decided to share some thoughts from you guys: 1. Being alone is one, it's abdonment I'm afraid of. But really, the future is probably the big one. Fear of no money to be able to live. Who will take care of me if something happens to Jeff before I die, etc. 2.  Fear to me is being afraid of something that hasn't happened yet. 3.  An obstacle....whether afraid of the consequence or the action.  It is always lurking.  Fear keeps me in a safe place, because overcoming fear can sometimes lead to pain.  4.  Afraid of the unknown.   I have experienced fear on the smallest scale.......the butterflies in your stomach to the most extent......you know the kind of fear that takes you to the darkest places you can imagine and makes you actually think of doing things to yourself!  Fear consumed my life for a long time, I just didn't realize how much, hence the

Fear-what does it mean to you?  Before I write on this POWERFUL word..................please take a minute to add a comment about what fear means to you! 

I was asked the other day what is the difference between opportunity, lesson and karma? Definitions: Opportunity-a combination of favorable circumstances or situations Lesson- something to be learned or studied Karma- good or bad emanations felt to be generated by someone or something I believe all three go hand in hand.  Opportunities are all around us, do you see them?  Do you act on them?  Or do you look through eyes of skepticism?  Lessons are opportunities.  They are gifts we provide ourselves in hopes we will learn how to become "better" people.   The ultimate goal!!!!!!!! Karma is also an opportunity.  If it is negatively infused karma, there is the opportunity to learn a lesson.  If it is positive karma, it is an opportunity to appreciate and recognize our goodness.  Regardless of the effort needed to learn a lesson as long as one looks at it as an opportunity to enhance themselves and those around them, their karma that will eventually find

Control......................A word that has described me for most of my life.  A word that until recently, I viewed as a very strong word.  The more I look at ALL that my mind tries to control, the word fear always seems to accompany the control.  I am now releasing my control of everything in my life that is not mine to control.  The strength and the power has found its way into my life.  Do you control?  I'll bet you do and I'll bet if asked you would say it is done with nothing but good intentions.  I know my control was always dripping with "love".  Yet, when I step away and look at it as a neutral viewer, I see how much I was stifling things and people around me.  Even my own growth.  As I choose to give up control over others around me, the unnecessary burden I placed on my shoulders, magically disappears.  Yes, once again it is as easy as changing your mind.  Don't get me wrong, I tend to revert back to old habits now and again, yet when I feel the tight