~Lessons Learned~

When we make wrong/negative choices it is because we are focusing on our lower love.  It is essential to our well-being to prioritize our love, such as self, family, friends, etc.  Once you have prioritized your love you will be able to see what frequency you are loving at.  Example, if someone confides in you and you in return share the secret with others, you have lowered your love frequency.  At this time you would be focusing more on popularity and acceptance from others since you have gossip to share then you are on trust and integrity.  Think before you speak or act and keep yourself in the higher frequency of love as often as possible.  It is here you will find peace.

Sometimes life has a way of making us walk through pain hoping to get our attention.  It is at these times, we need to focus on what we want and hold that focus as we move through the experience.  Once we make it through (and you will), re-evaluate everything, the good, the bad and indifferent.  Be grateful for it all.  The pain teaches us as much as the joy.  Always be mindful if the pain allows you to stay in a place of resentment and anger, if so, my friend you most definitely will experience it again.  All lessons are meant to guide you to the light and love.  The choice to stay a victim and live in the negativity is yours.  Both the good and bad are necessary for our growth, how long it takes us to learn the lesson is ours to define.  We usually stay in the pain and sadness because we are looking for someone/something to rescue us.  The truth.......you are the only one that can save you!!

Resistance - we all do it.  And right now it is a huge obstacle for many.  Why? Fear..  When we resist, we are afraid of change.  Your life right now is exactly what you have wanted it to be and therefore it is.  Many would argue that they want more; more love, more money, more security, etc. but you are living exactly what you believe you deserve and what you have thought about over and over.  We create our reality by our thoughts.  We tend to forget to live in appreciation and gratitude of what we have, once we begin to do this we begin to receive more to be grateful for.  It is amazing to me how many of us stay "in" or part of something we know is not healthy for our soul only because we are comfortable or at least believe we are with where we are at. Usually always longing for something different.  The difference comes from changing our thoughts which change our lives.  We find excuses to hold onto and there we remain unfulfilled an...

Change is a scary word.  So many of us want it and yet we fear or fight it when it comes our way.  But if you look around everything is changing.  Right now there is a huge shift going on in the world.  It has actually been happening for months, a shift that is changing everything around you, aligning your thoughts and actions into results. This is a time where you may notice things are changing or have changed without you even noticing.  You may feel different inside and not know why or how you view life differently right now than you did yesterday, but yet know your views and beliefs have shifted.  If you are really honest with yourself you will find whether you like where your life has taken you or where your thoughts are focused, you navigated your life right where it is. You were in control with your thoughts and actions.  You do have that kind of power and as you watch life will continue to change. If you still can't see the change that is ha...

We all have them, those over-indulgences, the things, people, places we go to feel better, to fill the void.  One of the best ways to recognize an addiction, they are the things that we always say we'll never do again, or we're done with this, etc. but find our way back to.  The most common that people think about are drugs, alcohol, sex, food.  But what about the ones that almost become diluted as addictions because so many of us do them.  What about our addictions to each other? We all have or have had that person(s) in our life who when we are with turns everything upside down.  The one that brings chaos and happiness into your life, a short little conversation or interaction with them, everything seems fine, the waters are calm and then you get together or spend more time talking and the next thing you know, the waters are crashing around you.  This can be a lover, child, friend, family member, co-worker, but they are around you.  They suck yo...

The good and bad in life can either create personal growth or fear inside of us. Whichever is stronger is what dominates how we handle change.  Fear will make you try to control everything around you in hopes you won't stimulate your fears.  As long as you use fear as your reason to try to control situations and others you will inevitably view life as threatening, therefore you will continue to allow the negative thoughts to cloud, even drive your life and you will continue to experience negative situations.  What we think becomes reality, what we think we receive.   Life will continue to change, it is up to us to either learn and release or hold on and try to control.  Change is an opportunity for personal growth, nothing more. When we try to make things the way we want for security the more we will create.  Once you allow the ego to get involved in the fear, events will unfold quickly in front of you and you will have more to deal with and more that w...

Why do so many overlook the people in their lives that really see you for who you are, really get you, deep to your core.  Whether it is friends, family, lover, why do we look and chase after those that are not interested necessarily in us, or our well being.  While we allow the ones that overlook the overbearing, irritating, obnoxious characteristics we seem to hide from everyone but them. You know the ones we can truly be ourselves around, the ones we can use, trample on and yet they still come around and still love us.  Not because we are super cool, but because they truly see us.  They see past the walls and masks we all try to hide behind.  They accept our stupid quirks and shrug them off because they know who we really are? So many chase happiness when it is usually with them.  How many times in school did you blow off a really close friend to hang out with the "cool" crowd, yet never really felt as though you fit in.  Once you found that they...