~Lessons Learned~

I was moved to write this blog.  I thought I was finished for the day and then my daughter came home from one of the hardest things she has ever faced, with tears and love exuding from every ounce of her being. (The details I will not share as I will respect those involved).  I listened to her explain what had just happened and what she had just experienced and my heart ached.  I am truly blessed to have such a remarkable person in my presence.   She has a heart of gold and her wish is and has always been that those she loves are happy and content all the time.  She is human......so she has made mistakes and as she grows I watch her own them quickly and completely.  She loves with all of her heart and would do anything to make the pain of others go away, even if that means she suffers.  I have watched her turn the other cheek countless times with mean, cruel people that have used her kindness in their favor.  And time and time again, she continued to love.   But as of late, due to

Are you a man/woman of your word? Is your word impeccable?  Can you be trusted to follow through with what you say?  Are you reliable?  Can others believe in you? OR Are you a person filled with excuses?  One that breaks promises easily over and over again?  Are you a person that has the ability to be sincere when agreeing to something, allowing another to put down their guard enough to let you in and then you disappoint?   Trusting someone is something we all like to do, a respect given to one another. Yet so many trample all over it or disregard it.  Don't make promises you can't or are not willing to keep.  Because once you lie, cheat, or hurt someone, you have planted the seed of doubt for everything else.  You also allow yourself to continue these behaviors regardless of who you are dealing with.  It is then very easy for people to label you.......once a liar, cheater, always a liar, cheater.  It can take years to earn somebody's trust back.   To be trust

So many of us make decisions based on our emotions at the time.  You know the type....like asking your friend to go on your family vacation, because the sleepover you just had was the best one ever.  Yet, you don't stop to think that the sleepover was only about three hours of waking time spent together and the family trip is going to be five long days and now that friend becomes YOUR responsibility.  How about when you are so pissed off at someone and the only thoughts that are swirling in your head are ones of vengeance.  So you say or do something that at the moment gives you some self satisfaction, but as time goes on, you feel guilt and remorse. Remember that's how Karma works, give it out and it comes back.  You know when you hurt someone because they hurt you. The strongest people in the world are the ones that are stomped on over and over and still get up walk away and keep their heart pure.   The best thing you can do when making decisions is to check your emotion

Do you ever feel as though life just isn't fair?  That you are one of the unlucky ones?  Do you know that everything that happens to you is due to your freedom of choice?  That you created each and every event.........YOU were the creator of where you are at?  Do you look at your unbelievable power or sit with the negative side of "I quit my job because my boss expected too much", "I left my spouse/relationship because she/he was too needy", "I no longer speak to my friend, because they didn't agree with me".  You know all the finger pointing and blaming that we do to make ourselves victims and to have other's feel sorry for us.  Or do you take ownership for where you are at and realize that some choices were made out of anger, guilt, selfishness, spontaneous and some were made with clarity and decisiveness, and no matter which it was still a choice and you made it.  There are quite a few decisions that I regret, quite a few that I wish I ha

There are so many reasons to stay, so many excuses to hold onto something that has ran its course, whether that be your job, your spouse, your friend(s), or your state of mind.  But no matter how many excuses you make you feel it in your gut, you know it in your heart and eventually you will make the change or the universe steps in and helps you out.  Regardless, it is how you handle the change which makes all the difference. Some retreat, some become reckless, some become bitter, others tend to run backwards.  You may find yourself blaming yourself, others, God, life in general.  The best way to start something new is to reflect in a healthy, neutral way on what you are moving away from, accepting responsibility, recognizing negative and detrimental habits and begin to replace them with new thoughts and a positive way of being.  Each day be thankful you have that day and begin to look at the things you were afraid of, the things that caused you fear and pain and see the pos

Do you have a favorite movie (or maybe many favorite movies) that you have watched over and over again?  Some you can repeat verbatim right down to the movements and dance steps.  Some you cry at the same spot every time, others you still turn away all along knowing there is nothing behind the door. We all have our own favorites, the ones that spoke to us in a certain way, the ones we have to have in our collection.   So which classic, "old" movies of your life, your decisions, your actions, do you replay in your head?  You know you have a plethora to pick from, dramas, love stories, comedies, etc.  Which ones do you allow to sit on auto play?  Which ones do you watch to see where you could change the outcome, make a different decision, or say something poignant or deep and the ending magically changes to the way you would write the story?  Wouldn't that be nice if it was possible.............well my dear it is.............while we can't change the past, once we a

Have you ever stopped and looked at your life and wondered why people leave and why new ones come in or why do people from your past re-enter?????  The answer is within.......what is your vibrational energy?  Where do your thoughts generally take you....sadness, despair, fear, anger, hopelessness, etc. or do you see a future, are you happy, positive, loving, kind, forgiving?   See if you strip everything away, we are all energy, our thoughts, music that we listen to, even the food that we eat alter our vibrational energy.  When we live in a state of loving and giving, we attract the same.  It is the same when we live in fear and anger.  This is why people come and go in our lives, if you are in a relationship with someone who is not on the same vibrational frequency as you are you will surely move away from each other........one may be at a higher frequency and therefore the two see things quite differently.  Usually in relationships, whether romantic, friendship, or family, there w