~Lessons Learned~

Is over.  The past is not where we exist, therefore step from it and into the now. Living in the past keeps us stuck and missing out on what is going on in front of us right now.  The past is a great teacher of what we don't want and what we do want, but it isn't a place to stay for long.   Use the past as a reference manual, visit it when you need to figure out a problem in the present.  Problems in our lives become bigger due to emotions and when we are adding emotions from the past we are deliberately making the present even harder.  Look at your past for answers, what were you feeling at the time that made you react or choose the way you did?  What were you lacking inside that you wish you would have known that would have made the past situation different..........better.  Acknowledge that you now have the answer and then close the book.  We continue to make the same mistakes because we use the past to beat ourselves down.  We dwell t...

We all create our own reality!!  Even though at times, it seems as those you are living life for someone else or for someone else, you have created EVERYTHING you live and experience.  Often we allow society, religion, friends and family's viewpoints to become ours, believing they know what is better for us.  And so many times, we find they were wrong, maybe not for them and their journey, but not for you.  Yet, we do it over and over.  REMEMBER, no one else creates your reality, but they can shape and change your perception and then you live how somebody else views reality from their experiences, NEVER WORKS. As long as you continue to make poor choices, it doesn't matter who is in your life (you can change the participants), you will always get the same results.  So how do you change your mind and make different choices that are the best for you?????  First, stop trying to please others.............you will always please others at your expense AND...

I was moved to write this blog.  I thought I was finished for the day and then my daughter came home from one of the hardest things she has ever faced, with tears and love exuding from every ounce of her being. (The details I will not share as I will respect those involved).  I listened to her explain what had just happened and what she had just experienced and my heart ached.  I am truly blessed to have such a remarkable person in my presence.   She has a heart of gold and her wish is and has always been that those she loves are happy and content all the time.  She is human......so she has made mistakes and as she grows I watch her own them quickly and completely.  She loves with all of her heart and would do anything to make the pain of others go away, even if that means she suffers.  I have watched her turn the other cheek countless times with mean, cruel people that have used her kindness in their favor.  And time and time again, she contin...

Are you a man/woman of your word? Is your word impeccable?  Can you be trusted to follow through with what you say?  Are you reliable?  Can others believe in you? OR Are you a person filled with excuses?  One that breaks promises easily over and over again?  Are you a person that has the ability to be sincere when agreeing to something, allowing another to put down their guard enough to let you in and then you disappoint?   Trusting someone is something we all like to do, a respect given to one another. Yet so many trample all over it or disregard it.  Don't make promises you can't or are not willing to keep.  Because once you lie, cheat, or hurt someone, you have planted the seed of doubt for everything else.  You also allow yourself to continue these behaviors regardless of who you are dealing with.  It is then very easy for people to label you.......once a liar, cheater, always a liar, cheater.  It can take years to ear...

So many of us make decisions based on our emotions at the time.  You know the type....like asking your friend to go on your family vacation, because the sleepover you just had was the best one ever.  Yet, you don't stop to think that the sleepover was only about three hours of waking time spent together and the family trip is going to be five long days and now that friend becomes YOUR responsibility.  How about when you are so pissed off at someone and the only thoughts that are swirling in your head are ones of vengeance.  So you say or do something that at the moment gives you some self satisfaction, but as time goes on, you feel guilt and remorse. Remember that's how Karma works, give it out and it comes back.  You know when you hurt someone because they hurt you. The strongest people in the world are the ones that are stomped on over and over and still get up walk away and keep their heart pure.   The best thing you can do when making decisions is ...

Do you ever feel as though life just isn't fair?  That you are one of the unlucky ones?  Do you know that everything that happens to you is due to your freedom of choice?  That you created each and every event.........YOU were the creator of where you are at?  Do you look at your unbelievable power or sit with the negative side of "I quit my job because my boss expected too much", "I left my spouse/relationship because she/he was too needy", "I no longer speak to my friend, because they didn't agree with me".  You know all the finger pointing and blaming that we do to make ourselves victims and to have other's feel sorry for us.  Or do you take ownership for where you are at and realize that some choices were made out of anger, guilt, selfishness, spontaneous and some were made with clarity and decisiveness, and no matter which it was still a choice and you made it.  There are quite a few decisions that I regret, quite a few that I wish I ha...