~Lessons Learned~

Leaving the past and moving forward is one of the hardest things to do.  We have an attachment, a knowing, a comfort with the past moving forward is usually always accompanied by fear.   I have learned recently through my daughter this doesn't have to be the case.  I watched her walk through sadness and uncertainty with grace. She stayed in gratitude for what she had, vowed not to live in the past, but to embrace the now.  She is in a totally different place living with so much confidence, love, and excitement for everything life continues to bring her way. Yet at the same time she enjoys her downtime and uses it wisely.  She has shown me that people, things and situations come and go in our lives and I am embracing the fact I have learned to appreciate my past and all that it brought to my life, but am just as grateful for the "new" that has entered.  When you truly live knowing you can't change others but have the ability to change your own mind and thoughts to

Have you ever lost something very important to you?  Or have you let it go thinking something better would come along?  Have you wondered why once you let go of what you think was hurting you or pulling you down or not fulfilling you.........nothing seems to change.  At times, it seems to be even harder?   Did you learn that letting go didn't fix anything, it's because you are still you. While our relationships, jobs, family, etc. have an influence in our thinking, there is only one person that controls our beliefs and the way are lives work out....that is YOU!  The best way to change our lives isn't throwing out the old and looking for the new (the grass is always greener on the other side until you get to the other side), it's recognizing what inside of us keeps us stuck and unhappy. It's taking ownership for our own thoughts and actions and realizing what works and what doesn't and changing to make things better for us.  Trying to force change within by

I am truly grateful for the two most amazing women I've ever known........my mom and my daughter.  Thank you for everything you do for me, everything you teach me and most importantly for being the true inspirational women you are.  I love you both and am so grateful to have you both in my life!!!

I've learned a lot this weekend!! The light bulb finally went on in my head and it is so freeing.  I have a tendency to dwell on things I don't understand. For me, knowing why people do the things they do seems to make life easier.  HOWEVER, I also have a tendency to assume why people do as they do and this at times makes my blood boil.  I don't understand how people can ignore, misuse or treat another poorly, yet still stay in your life and profess their interest.  WAIT!! Strike that first part - I don't understand and insert I didn't understand.  Now I get it!! You see, when I am kind, giving and respectful of you and give you my time and attention, naturally I expect the same from you.  Key word to my misunderstanding.......EXPECT. I know now and embrace the fact that while I may be giving of my time or self, others may not give back in the same way.  They may use me or ignore me, but their behavior has nothing to do with me!!  We each have to live with ou

Okay, see if you choose a different animal now !!! *Lion - aggressive, goes after what they want, intelligent, strong, fights for their loved ones to the end, overbearing, forceful, doesn't back down, talks strong and loud, has a hard time relaxing, holds onto grudges, will eat you up and spit you out. *Golden Retriever-loyal, trustworthy, warm hearted, trusting of others to a fault, will wait for loved ones, forgiving, fun.  So trusting and loyal they can become a doormat, wants peace in home and friendships. *Turtle-hard outer shell, stand offish, careful, slow in getting things done but always gets the job done, soft-hearted, caring, shy, timid, runs away and hides when the going gets tough, comes back when they think the storm has passed and figures everyone else is on the same page they are on. *Otter-let's things roll off their back, doesn't stay mad long, takes a lot to get them riled up, but they do can be vicious, playful, always looking for the next

Which of the following animals, do you think you are most like? Pick one!!! *Lion *Golden Retriever *Turtle *Otter *Beaver *Chameleon *Fox The answers may surprise you :)      Coming in next post!