~Lessons Learned~

The good and bad in life can either create personal growth or fear inside of us. Whichever is stronger is what dominates how we handle change.  Fear will make you try to control everything around you in hopes you won't stimulate your fears.  As long as you use fear as your reason to try to control situations and others you will inevitably view life as threatening, therefore you will continue to allow the negative thoughts to cloud, even drive your life and you will continue to experience negative situations.  What we think becomes reality, what we think we receive.   Life will continue to change, it is up to us to either learn and release or hold on and try to control.  Change is an opportunity for personal growth, nothing more. When we try to make things the way we want for security the more we will create.  Once you allow the ego to get involved in the fear, events will unfold quickly in front of you and you will have more to deal with and more that will poke at the insecurit

Why do so many overlook the people in their lives that really see you for who you are, really get you, deep to your core.  Whether it is friends, family, lover, why do we look and chase after those that are not interested necessarily in us, or our well being.  While we allow the ones that overlook the overbearing, irritating, obnoxious characteristics we seem to hide from everyone but them. You know the ones we can truly be ourselves around, the ones we can use, trample on and yet they still come around and still love us.  Not because we are super cool, but because they truly see us.  They see past the walls and masks we all try to hide behind.  They accept our stupid quirks and shrug them off because they know who we really are? So many chase happiness when it is usually with them.  How many times in school did you blow off a really close friend to hang out with the "cool" crowd, yet never really felt as though you fit in.  Once you found that they didn't really care

FEAR - while fear is something we all think of and then experience in our lives-it is something that is non-existent unless we give our thoughts to it.  However, most people don't even realize that the many things that keep them stuck is fear.  So many people I know don't like the job they are in or what a promotion If I ask you why don't you put in for that job? Answer:  Aw, too many deadlines, hours are too long.  First thing I think of...........what are you afraid of?  Another great one is I hear people say God I want to go out with someone, get a date or I want to be married to have a home, kids a family.  I ask....why don't you date or get married?  Answer: too busy, want to pay off my bills, don't want to interrupt my time.  Um, again what are you afraid of??????? So think of something that you want whether it is a new career, promotion, spouse, date, boyfriend/girlfriend, new car, or even just a new outlook on life and ask yourself why don't I have