DESERVING

We all make mistakes!! Yes even me~LOL!!!!  We all become divas at one time or another, we all act as though we are two and even throw tantrums, for we are all learning as we go and different incidents create different triggers that can be small or huge explosions!! That's life!  It's OUR individual responsibility as adults to know when to put our pride aside and take ownership of either treating people as though they are doormats or being the one that is the doormat.  

Yes, we are going to piss each other off, we are going to cry, stomp our feet, run away or act a child, it's going to happen and it's OKAY!! BUT it is NEVER, EVER, NEVER, okay to CONTINUE to treat someone poorly!!  If you are constantly making someone cry, fearful that you'll cheat, fearful that you will be mean, fearful that you'll leave-CHECK YOUR DAMN SELF!!!  We are not in each other's life to cause misery or pain to another, if you find yourself doing this-you have some real inner issues that need to be immediately addressed. If you are the receiver of this kind of mental abuse-RUN FAR!!  Everyone is deserving of a loving, kind, nurturing relationship -TWO SIDED!  

You can't build anything on a shaky foundation.  It takes two committed people to build a lasting, steady relationship, whether that is a love or friendship relationship.  If there is only one that brings the strength to the foundation the house will surely come falling down.  So a word to the wise, do not settle for someone that takes the love, attention, kindness, forgiveness, respect, honesty, commitment - (the foundation) in your relationship for granted for they will continue to take faster than you can give!!  How do you know which you are????  A taker will be there when they are lonely, when they need a quick fix, they will lie, deceive and do whatever they have to to make themselves happy.  They will not think of you first and will be quick to run or say sorry and give you false promises to keep themselves looking good.  They will run from commitment and blame everyone around them.  A giver will continue to forgive, make excuses for the taker, love harder, cry often, feel alone with the taker, worry, love even harder.  Which are you?

If you are a taker, look out below for you will surely fold!! 

If you are a foundation builder, ensure that the other person is building with you or you will be left with nothing, if you are with a taker, find a foundation builder-together you will build the best in both you.