SECOND CHANCE
Do you ever wish you could do somethings all over again? School? A relationship? A career? A hobby? Do you find yourself thinking that if you could just go back in time, everything would be different, you would have studied harder, loved more, been more of a team player, etc. Well if you do STOP IT!!! For everything happens for a reason and every tear you've cried, every hurt feeling you've felt, every disappointment, every failure was needed for you to learn and make the next chapter in your life even better.
Have you ever envied the way someone else handled a situation wishing that you could have had the innate knack to study and retain the knowledge, but no you had to work hard and even with the hours of studying you put in, you still never aced the test like the next guy. Or looked at a couple (whether romantic or a friendship) and wished that you could get a long that well all the time with your bestie or with your significant other? Ever wished you could allow the politics to roll off your back like the next guy does instead of allowing them to stew and fester inside?
Well my friend I am here to tell you that it can all be different, every situation, relationship, job, etc can be exactly what you want and need it to be. You see something like high school, life doesn't provide you a second chance to go back to being 16 and trying it over again, but you do have the ability to examine the feelings you had at 16 and the things you felt you were missing out on or lacking (I'll bet you have experienced them many times over since then and have probably dealt with them pretty much the same way).
The first and most important step to a second chance at something is to recognize the feelings and frustrations you encountered. Take responsibility for your wrongdoings, your lack of action, your inability (fear) to speak up, your insecurities that held you back or led you to be an ignorant ass (my insecurities often led me to the asshole phase). Know what you were/are afraid of and own it.
Recognize the things that you wished you would have done differently, i.e., interacted more, made more friends, showed more compassion, kindness, patient, and then begin incorporating those actions in your daily life now.
Forgive yourself!!!! Then forgive others!
Vow to yourself to move forward each and everyday in a positive loving life, I promise you-life will provide you with that second chance you are looking for!!!
Have you ever envied the way someone else handled a situation wishing that you could have had the innate knack to study and retain the knowledge, but no you had to work hard and even with the hours of studying you put in, you still never aced the test like the next guy. Or looked at a couple (whether romantic or a friendship) and wished that you could get a long that well all the time with your bestie or with your significant other? Ever wished you could allow the politics to roll off your back like the next guy does instead of allowing them to stew and fester inside?
Well my friend I am here to tell you that it can all be different, every situation, relationship, job, etc can be exactly what you want and need it to be. You see something like high school, life doesn't provide you a second chance to go back to being 16 and trying it over again, but you do have the ability to examine the feelings you had at 16 and the things you felt you were missing out on or lacking (I'll bet you have experienced them many times over since then and have probably dealt with them pretty much the same way). The first and most important step to a second chance at something is to recognize the feelings and frustrations you encountered. Take responsibility for your wrongdoings, your lack of action, your inability (fear) to speak up, your insecurities that held you back or led you to be an ignorant ass (my insecurities often led me to the asshole phase). Know what you were/are afraid of and own it.
Recognize the things that you wished you would have done differently, i.e., interacted more, made more friends, showed more compassion, kindness, patient, and then begin incorporating those actions in your daily life now.
Forgive yourself!!!! Then forgive others!
Vow to yourself to move forward each and everyday in a positive loving life, I promise you-life will provide you with that second chance you are looking for!!!
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