YOUR HEART CONT.......

In the last blog Your Heart..........I talked about a friend of mine and the current situation he found himself in. So do you think he called me?  Do you think he met the "other woman" or found his way back to his heart? Well here is the update.................Read this quote it speaks volumes of what is to come in this story!!

My friend's wife continued to struggle with health issues after the birth of their last child and my friend continued to struggle with his inner self.  Eventually, his family wasn't talked about anymore and when I would bring them up, he would politely dismiss them with a "yeah they're good".  If they were brought up, it was always something that pissed him off.  

I soon noticed that he was losing weight.  A few months prior, his wife had been encouraging his weight loss, packing him homemade lunches with notes encouraging him and even joined the mission with him.  When I complimented him on how lucky he was to have a wife that stood next to him in the ugliness that comes with losing weight, his response was, she should love me for who I am.  I told him, she does dumbass you were the one that told her you needed to lose weight she was just trying to help!! Anyway, I again complimented him on his weight loss and with his response I knew what was going to happen.  He smiled and said thank you I'm trying to change my image.  (your image is an external representation of yourself).  That told me that the other woman was still in the picture.  (even though he denied it)

FAST FORWARD!!!

Due to the complications his wife was having she was going in for surgery again.  My friend complained that he was going to have to take time off of work to take care of his family and wasn't looking forward to it!!! Two days before the surgery his wife came to him and said she would be taking the kids and they were going to stay at her parents house, that she needed to know the kids were being looked after and she needed someone there that wanted to help her out.  He told me it was like being punched in the gut.  He pleaded with her to stay (fear of losing them set in hard) to no avail.  She left.  The fear quickly turned to anger and within one day he finally met with the "other woman".  Of course that went just like I predicted.  He wasn't impressed.  He said there was no "feeling".  Well duh I told him your heart has always been there with your wife whether you chose to see it or not.  The "other woman" wasn't impressed with him either, you've changed she told him in a way that he knew she didn't like.  She told him that she was having problems in her marriage (really!!!) and was hoping the two of them meeting would make her feel better.  He said he could feel the guilt was uncomfortable and he cut the night short (like in an hour) and told her he wouldn't be contacting her again.  She smiled and said that's okay I wasn't going to contact you either and they left.  

He said the hardest part was walking into his empty house-(but this is what he had wanted and bitched about for so long).  The next day he went to see his family and asked his wife to come back.  He said she smiled at him, told him how much she missed and loved him, BUT that she wasn't sure when they would be coming home.  She went on to tell him the days away had allowed her to see how awful, mean and disrespectful he had been treating her and that she wasn't going to let him do it anymore.  My friend is hurting bad right now and says the fear of losing his family has him so depressed.  

REMEMBER:  You can only hurt and step on someone for so long before they realize that they ARE NOT your doormat and stand up and walkaway.  While my friend was busy losing weight, cutting his hair, getting new clothes to make his ego feel better, he was stomping the hell out of his wife's heart and at that same time she was getting stronger to make the move away.  I told him sooner or later your cruelty will go from hurt in your wife's heart to strength and you may not see her again.  Be careful in the way you treat others.

He asked me if she will come back?  He pleaded with me to say yes.  I told him it is time to focus on himself and change the ugliness that he became!!  Guess what????  He texts me daily now for guidance!!