WHY DO WE LIE?
FOR MY SWEET NIECE~I love you!!!!
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything" ~ Mark Twain
“...even a tiny bit of deceit is dishonorable when it's used for selfish or cowardly reasons."~Unknown
I was asked to blog on this subject.......which let me tell you is probably my biggest PET PEEVE. Now don't get me wrong even I have lied (yes I know hard to believe) heehee. When I look back on why I did it, usually I came up with the same answer - my self worth was in the gutter. Actually I didn't believe in myself or my abilities so I lied to make others look at me differently to try to get them to fill my worth meter WRONG!! I'm the only one that can do that. Of course, the lie led me to impatience, aggression, withdrawal, depression, self doubt, low self-esteem, and insecurity. Funny thing I couldn't lie to myself and that is what kept gnawing at me. It is also what made me realize the lies caused pain for everyone!!
Lying comes from a self serving need. We usually blame the situation instead of taking responsibility and then use that as an excuse to make irresponsible choices, lying to make ourselves feel better. Liars rarely take responsibility!! It comes from fear, insecurity, low self esteem and lack of trust of one's self.
While I truly believe lying is wrong, I do believe we have the ability to change, the desire to tell the truth and be honest will build a tremendous "want" to make one better and this will be done through actions, not words.
Rest assure my sweet niece, there are honest people out there. Remain true to yourself for life is so much easier to live!!!
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything" ~ Mark Twain
“...even a tiny bit of deceit is dishonorable when it's used for selfish or cowardly reasons."~Unknown
I was asked to blog on this subject.......which let me tell you is probably my biggest PET PEEVE. Now don't get me wrong even I have lied (yes I know hard to believe) heehee. When I look back on why I did it, usually I came up with the same answer - my self worth was in the gutter. Actually I didn't believe in myself or my abilities so I lied to make others look at me differently to try to get them to fill my worth meter WRONG!! I'm the only one that can do that. Of course, the lie led me to impatience, aggression, withdrawal, depression, self doubt, low self-esteem, and insecurity. Funny thing I couldn't lie to myself and that is what kept gnawing at me. It is also what made me realize the lies caused pain for everyone!!
Lying comes from a self serving need. We usually blame the situation instead of taking responsibility and then use that as an excuse to make irresponsible choices, lying to make ourselves feel better. Liars rarely take responsibility!! It comes from fear, insecurity, low self esteem and lack of trust of one's self.
While I truly believe lying is wrong, I do believe we have the ability to change, the desire to tell the truth and be honest will build a tremendous "want" to make one better and this will be done through actions, not words.
Rest assure my sweet niece, there are honest people out there. Remain true to yourself for life is so much easier to live!!!
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