~Lessons Learned~

Death...................One guarantee in life for all of us!  A subject I have been intrigued by as long as I can remember.  I remember fearing death for others when I was young, as I didn't believe that it happened until you were you older.  I was 21 when I attended the first funeral that I actually remember understanding the entire concept.  I felt very detached for some reason, yet very involved.  Not sure how long I should mourn, if I was doing it correctly, so I watched others.  Funny, it seemed like after the first funeral, many more followed.  I attended religious funerals, traditional, non-traditional, funerals for people dying of old age, traffic accidents, but it was suicide that really grabbed my attention.  I began to see death in a whole new light. I don't fear death.  I don't wish for it any time soon as I have a lot of things I still need to do, but the inevitable does not occupy my mind.  As I write this, a dear friends father passed today and I reflect on

Have you ever stopped and asked yourself that question?  Are you a chameleon ?  Can you change your mind, your beliefs, yourself to fit in any situation?  I believe that there are often times when this is true for all of us, but I also believe that this is the norm with so many in their lives.  Are you the type of person who can seethe and talk about another with a certain friend, yet when the other person walks by, you can just as easily smile and extend yourself.  I mean really, what would they think?  Is your goal to have everyone like you?  In my book a very unreasonable goal and one that can cause confusion, stress and turmoil.  When we live to please others, we fail to please ourselves, therefore ask yourself does this person truly care about me?  OR just what it is I have to give them.  Do people really know you?  I believe one of the hardest things is to have beliefs and stand by those beliefs even in the toughest times.  Can you stand up for another if you can't st

This year will be filled with promises being kept.  Dreams being met and accomplishments abound.  For those that seek better within themselves and around them, allowing nothing more, that is what will surround them.   This is a year of hope a time to believe in what you deserve and a time to listen to what is inside.  This is the beginning for all that wish to believe and trust for this is the open time that you will feel and notice at a larger scale the things that are happening at high rate of speed.  This is a time to reflect and appreciate for this is the time for opportunity to change your thinking from doubt to knowing.  Knowing that what you desire is yours for the taking.  Listen inside and make sure you fill your desires from within; those are the ones that will be lasting and forever.  They are the ones that will allow prosperity and growth.  They are the ones that will guide you the rest of your years.  This huge openness that surrounds you now will be there again but no