~Lessons Learned~

Do you yearn for a healthy relationship?  For a lasting relationship?  Do you wonder why you don't have one?  What is wrong with you?  The answer, pretty simple..................YOU'RE A LIAR!  Whether you lie to yourself or to others, until you begin to tell your truth to yourself and others, you will continue to search and search, either settling (which will eventually lead to a break-up) or going through one person after another.   Relationships differ from couple to couple.  Some can deal and compromise with situations that others would set as their deal breaker.  But the one thing that will definitely kill a relationship every time is lying.  But like I said there are two liars..............the self liar, which holds back on their truth trying to please the other.  Like the girl that meets a guy, the guy indicates early on that he is looking for a casual friend, a hook-up.  The girl goes along with this even though in her mi...

"the ability to endure an unpleasant or difficult process or situation without giving way  the capacity of something to last or to withstand wear and tear" Endurance requires strength, both physical and emotional.  Physical endurance comes from taking care of ourselves by being active, eating healthy and resting our bodies.  Emotional endurance comes from love and faith, which at times seems harder to accomplish than the physical.  The emotional/spiritual side of endurance comes with faith and being able to trust enough in yourself that you see something to the end.  Whether that is an injury, relationship, break-up, job, second chance, moving forward.  They all require endurance and perseverance.  But in the end it is all worth it.  As long as you are open and ready to receive, you will encounter setbacks (you're human and it's just part of the package).  HOWEVER, if you believe and keep going you will spring forward from any setbacks ...

I read somewhere that a goal without a plan is just a wish.   Great saying but how do you make your wishes come true?  It's as easy as this.......live them as though they are unfolding and happening right now.  Again change your thought process from when this happens to I'm preparing for this to happen.  Do you want a new house, new car, a loving spouse, a successful surgery, a great job, loving family, happiness and peace in your life?  You and only you allow the carrot of your wants to dangle in front of you always chasing it but never catching it.   If you want a new house, car and loving spouse, appreciate where you are right now and begin to see yourself with all of it.  Picture yourself decorating your new house, driving your new car and spending time with your spouse.  Enjoy it, feel, smell it, allow the belief that it can be yours to fill your heart with joy as you know it is coming.  Great advice and something that most of us can ...

I am a true believer in signs.  They are all around us providing us strength, assurance, or just comfort.  I use to ask for signs almost on a daily basis and they would end up popping up in the most random places.  Feathers, butterflies, dragon flies are very popular signs and when they are around spirit it surrounding you.   I recently received a sign in the mail from a very dear friend....keys.  The minute I saw them, before I read the letter, I knew they had a significant meaning and I knew it was my responsibility to figure it out.  So I sat in a quiet place with my cup of coffee, keys in hand and asked what I was supposed to learn or accept..........the answer actually freed me from a few weeks (okay months) of negative living.  For years I have been asked by so many how to let things go, how to change your mind and believe it, how to move forward when you feel stuck.  My answer was basically always the same, change your way of thinking to...

"Relationships are mirrors of ourselves. What we attract always mirrors either qualities we have or beliefs we have about relationships." -  Louise Hay Take a look at your relationships, past and present...........what do they say about you?   Some of my biggest life lessons have come from people I have attracted in my life, due to my insecurities, self loathing, lack of self worth, etc.  They were some of the hardest times of my life and when I look back at them, I can see my part, my beliefs of myself and I know why they were a part of my life.  I now know how to look at people that are around me, or that I have allowed in my life and see their negativity, ugliness, hatred and realize I can't fix them and that if I allow them to play an important part in my life, my life will begin to crumble, for they are a warning, an alarm clock of where my self thinking meter is at.  Probably a good time to start forgiving myself, taking care of myself and loving my...

Searching for what we already have...........how many of us do this over and over.  You know what I'm talking about, when you experience something, see something or feel something and you know deep in your heart, there's something else out there that's better and so you get stuck in the endless cycle of chasing the elusive concept of happiness. It was said best in the Wizard of Oz ......... YOU are everything you need. There is no reason to look outside for happiness and acceptance. When we look to replace people and things with something better, newer, bigger, we are really saying to ourselves that we are not enough. Once you learn to love yourself, you cultivate, nourish and grow what you have to be the best "it" (you) can be.  Wouldn't it be a better place if we learned how to appreciate what we have and be thankful for the "riches" that are already ours? Instead of replacing, how about enhancing what is already in your life?  Life seeme...

Is over.  The past is not where we exist, therefore step from it and into the now. Living in the past keeps us stuck and missing out on what is going on in front of us right now.  The past is a great teacher of what we don't want and what we do want, but it isn't a place to stay for long.   Use the past as a reference manual, visit it when you need to figure out a problem in the present.  Problems in our lives become bigger due to emotions and when we are adding emotions from the past we are deliberately making the present even harder.  Look at your past for answers, what were you feeling at the time that made you react or choose the way you did?  What were you lacking inside that you wish you would have known that would have made the past situation different..........better.  Acknowledge that you now have the answer and then close the book.  We continue to make the same mistakes because we use the past to beat ourselves down.  We dwell t...